It seems like there is something every summer that people talk about. This summer I’ve heard a lot about the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy. If you’re wondering, no I’ve not read them, apart from a very racy paragraph that I very badly wanted to read aloud in the bookstore over the loud speaker. Can you imagine the reaction I would have gotten? It didn’t help that I know some employees there and they urged me to do it. With the thought of getting arrested for “disturbing the peace” or something else, I decided not to.
Either way, it’s had me thinking for a while about women – what they want, moms, porn, and what this trilogy may bring about because of it’s intense subject matter and community of readers. I think men unfairly get pegged with being into porn. I think, to each their own in this department, but the truth is, women also look at porn. Yes, the cat is out of the bag. Run for your lives! The idea of the book series reminds me of the film Secretary. The film features James Spader as a very intense, attention to detail lawyer, who happens to be into bondage. He’s accompanied by Maggie Gyllenhaal as a girl who was a cutter, went to treatment, and finds another way to cope and live because of her new job as a secretary. The film is one of the most honest and brilliant stories about relationships we don’t understand and unfairly question. I hope and wonder if it will create a point of conversation with couples and create a new understanding with relationships. There is no “right way” to love. Different strokes for different folks. Private or public, whatever happens in a relationship is nobody else’s business but your own. I think it comes down to communication.
It’s sad to say that the divorce rate is so high in this country. Infidelity seems to creep in as the culprit, but I don’t think it has to. Shouldn’t a marriage or relationship be the safest place in the world to just be yourself? I think so. I wonder and hope that these books and topics bring up great intimate conversations. Why shouldn’t they? I know the banning of the books have been front page news and a hot topic of conversation. Like many things in this world, we can’t shut it out, because we don’t understand or fear it. This makes the problem worse by creating opportunities to make poor decisions, because we are not educated.
I love that marketers have dubbed the Fifty Shades books as “mommy porn” – it’s hilarious. It also leads me to believe that some women may not be currently satisfied in their current situation or are looking for more. Men, get off your ass and make a statement. Why can’t you be a wildly successful business man with crazy fetishes? You can. The important thing with this whole post and idea is simple. Sex education needs to change. There is no “right way” to love. We need to have conversations with one another. We are curious by nature. Allow yourself to explore it in a safe and loving environment. I hope we give our mothers and women in our lives a break, and allow them to indulge in a fantasy world filled with handcuffs and wild sex. They work hard, and they deserve it.
Next time you check into a hotel, check the night stand to see what’s inside. It might be a bible, or it might be Fifty Shades of Grey. Did you see in the above photo what they were selling above the books?
